You found this page. That took courage. You are in the right place.
Maybe you can’t believe that you just searched for the word “incest.” Maybe you can’t believe that you clicked on one of the links that you found there. The word itself just seems dirty, disgusting even. What kind of people would identify with such a word? And how could it be that you are one of those people?
You are not really sure exactly what even happened to you. Are those foggy memories real? Could a person that you loved and needed have really done something so disgusting to you? What does it say about you that you believe that such a thing happened? What does it say about you if it did happen?
Maybe it is not really a big deal? I mean, you hardly ever think about it. But maybe it pops into your head at the weirdest moments. And you do have kind of a messed up relationship with sex. Perhaps you find yourself having sex and don’t even really know if you wanted to. Perhaps you remember very little of the sex that you have. Perhaps you have tried to make yourself unattractive so that people won’t ask for sex — because if they do you will have to say yes. Or perhaps you have felt that sex is the only thing that really gives you value.
1. Children are not disgusting. Adults who do things to children are disgusting.
2. You did what you had to do to survive — to get your needs met as well as possible, to reduce your suffering. Nothing that happened was your fault.
3. Your body belongs to you and anyone who does not fully respect that is an abuser.
4. You are inherently worthy because you are a human being.
If you need help coming to believe these facts viscerally — not just in your mind, but in your body — please reach out. A free 15-minute consultation is available, and there is no pressure to commit.
